Tuesday, August 10, 2004

What I am Looking for in a Guy.....

Due to current converstations I have had..I have decided to write out a list of qualities that I want in a guy....characteristics of the type relationship I am looking for....

Well the #1 priority of my relationship would have to be God. That is what I want in a future mate...so that is what I would need to establish early in a dating relationship. I want to date someone that will pray with me...study with me...encourage me...someone that would help me grow, not hinder me... and I in return want to do the same for this person..I want to encourage him and build him up....

I want this person to love God more than he could ever love me...because that's the only way that unconditional love could exist. I want this person to care about others...go out of his way to help people...I want him to be able to make me feel safe and taken care of, but at the same time...I want to be needed...I want him to need me to help him too.

I know that this person will have faults, and I want someone who would be patient with me when I mess up, and I in return would be patient with him...

I don't want a typical Faulkner "rush into the most serious relationship you can as soon as you can" type relationship. I will want things to go slowly...I will want to grow with this person, and this can't and shouldn't happen over night...or within a short week or two..because usually things that sprout up that quickly, are quick to wilt or fall. It is those things that take their time growing...take time to build strong roots...that stand through storms...

and in whatever relationship that comes my way in the future..there will be storms...and I will want to be with someone that will be strong enough to remain standing...

and in whatever relationship that comes my way in the future..there will be some really fun times...and I will want to be with someone that will be able to be silly and have fun with me.

.....these are just a few things that came to mind as I was thinking on this matter tonight...this is what I want...and I surely do not expect it anytime soon...who knows really...but I am not going to worry about it, that's for sure....

1 comments:

rissa said...

hey jen
you are such an awesome girl and I know you will find just what you're looking for! because a guy would be lucky to catch you! love ya
yo sista